Rate how true are the following statements
are about your current relationship
(rarely true) 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 (usually true)
___It is difficult for my partner and I to laugh, play and have genuine fun.
___Problems often divide us and put us against each other.
___We often disagree about issues involving money.
___I rarely express my true feeling in our relationship.
___We have difficulty accepting each others family members.
___One of us could be described as unapproachable, emotionally unavailable, or withdrawn.
___There is often misunderstanding in our communication.
___We do not often share common goals or dreams for the future.
___Our sex life is rarely satisfying.
___My partner and I differ in moral and values standards.
___One of us is often accusing the other of being insensitive.
___Honesty about feelings and thoughts are sometimes a problem in our relationship.
___I sometimes feel insecure that my partner may someday leave me.
___Power and decision-making are often a struggle in our relationship.
___We often withdraw or become verbally aggressive during or after an argument.
___There is some definite problems with respecting each other.
___I often have problems listening to or being listened to in our relationship.
___We have major differences with regard to religious values.
___We cannot talk freely about work related concerns.
___I believe our relationship is very unhealthy.
The following scoring index should be used to suggest a rating of your communication skills.
20-40 = Great
41-65 = Good
66-85 = Average
85-100 = Poor
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